Usually in this column I discuss how to deal with major issues, resolve conflict, or make the best out of difficult situations. But, this week, inspired by the beauty and happiness of spring, I have decided to provide some quick ideas on little things you can do to reaffirm to your partner that you love them and think about them often. You may be doing everything right in your relationship – communicating effectively, making lots of quality time for each other, solving any conflicts – but that doesn’t mean there aren’t several little ways to connect even more with your partner. Remember, it’s the little things that count!
Greet Your Partner With Excitement
When you get home from work each day, don’t walk in the door stressed out or down. Show your partner that you are happy to be back home with them by greeting them with a smile, a big hug, and a friendly hello. If you are picking your partner up for a date always seem excited to see him or her, even if the traffic on the drive over frustrated you. You are in for a good night from here on out so be happy about it.
Leave Love Notes
Write “I love you” on the bathroom mirror for a hidden message revealed after your partner showers. Send an email or text message to let your partner know you are thinking about them. Place a note on their car if you drive by their office parking lot during the day (make sure it's the right car!). Any little excuse to show your love will show your partner how truly caring you are.
Remember when you were first dating? You probably couldn’t keep your hands off each other. Bring a little of that added affection back to your relationship by grabbing your partner’s hand as you walk down the street together or sit next to each other at the cinema. This little bit of tenderness is a good opportunity for added closeness.
Go On Dates
Going out on an official date at least one time each week ("date night") is an easy and fun way to show love for one another. If you get into the mentality of an official “date” rather than just going out to dinner, it is almost like you are giving yourself an added excuse to be romantic. It is practically expected!
Gaze Into Your Partner’s Eyes
Really try to look into your partner’s eyes when you are in deep conversation. The intensity of locking eyes can make anyone’s heart race and, by staying focused on your partner while they are talking, you are showing them that you are really listening to what they say and that, for that moment, they are the most important thing on your mind.
A Tip Just for Him
Leave the Toilet Seat Down
It is one of the easiest things you can do, yet many men forget to do this. It may sound a little strange, but, in a way, it is a sign of respect to your girlfriend or wife. You are sparing her the inconvenience of having to do it herself and that always makes a good impression, even if it is an unconscious one. Keeping the seat up only frustrates her while putting the seat down, although a very small act, is a great way to make her life a little easier.
A Tip Just for Her
Be Vulnerable… Sometimes
It is instinctual that at times men will want to feel strong and, well, manly. Finding an excuse to ask for help from your boyfriend or husband can not only help boost his ego, but also show him that you rely on him for love and companionship. Don’t get me wrong, I have tons of respect for independent women, but asking for help opening a tight jar or lifting something heavy is an easy way to make your partner feel needed. And, as long as you know you could do it yourself if you wanted to, isn’t it ok to rely on your loved-one now and then and show a little vulnerability?
Hopefully these tips will bring even more joy and togetherness to already happy relationships. It is always a good idea to find added ways to express your love and appreciation for your partner and, as you can see in these examples, it doesn’t have to take much time. A little extra focus on your partner here or there is just another thing, along with effective communication, tenderness, and respect, that will keep your relationship strong and happy.