How Does Attraction Work?

Have you ever wondered why your significant other loves you? Is it because of your looks, speech, body language or life experiences?

Maybe it is the way that you deal with your family or work towards your goals. It could also be because of your values. When dating, ponder these things and always try to show your strengths.

Think about the people that you’ve dated in past relationships. Maybe they can will help you understand why you are attractive. Eventually, you’ll pinpoint the characteristics that make you special and break them down into the following sections:


How do you communicate with your love interest? They might feel special because of your precious conversations with one another. Your ability to listen makes it easier to learn more about this person. As a result, it piques your interest, and you can focus on that person. Your love interest loves this about you.

Looks and Body Language

How do you dress for dates? This includes the coordination of your clothes and accessories, and the time that is spent to pull your look together. However, looks are not the only thing that makes you special. It is also the way that you communicate with your date in terms of eye contact, posture, touch and close proximity.

Values and Beliefs

What things do you strongly believe in? What do you consider valuable? It’s your viewpoints about education, health, religion, relationships, politics, parenting or the environment. The things that you consider important make you a unique person.


What have you achieved in life? What are you knowledgeable about? This section also includes your level of education and the things that you want to learn.

Social Networks

Who is in your social circle? What are the activities do you and your groups participate in when together? Think about your friends, family and co-workers.

Career Goals

What are your goals, and how do you plan to achieve them? Do you want to make a difference in the world? Where do you see yourself in a couple of years?

Hobbies and Other Interests

What are your passions in life? What makes you want to get out of bed every morning? These are the things that make you an interesting and unique person.

Think about all of the wonderful things that you’ve done so far in life. Do you like to travel? Have you gotten promotions at work? Have you had juicy relationships in the past? What have you learned as a result of your many experiences?

These are all things that you should consider and ask yourself. Explore these areas because it helps you understand how others see you. These things make you attractive to others. If you’re having trouble thinking about yourself in this manner, then consider things that others have said about you. What impressed them the most about you? What have you received compliments about? People like these things you and want to spend more time with you.

Now, if you like what people say about you, then continue doing these things. Make them your strengths during the dating process. If you are good at starting and maintaining conversations, then continue to talk and listen on your dates.

But if you are not happy about the things that are being said about you, make changes. This includes highlighting your good features and changing your negative ones as well. Maybe you like to spend time outdoors, but no one has noticed this. Let them know about your passion for the outdoors. You’ll discover that others are interested in the same and want to spend time with you.

All in all, know what makes you attractive to others. Also, know what makes others attractive to you. It’s the aforementioned characteristics and chemistry that will ensure attraction. Everyone is unique. Highlight your strengths and stand out in a sea of daters.

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