How often have you sighed while glancing through a women's magazine at a photo of a movie star like Jennifer Aniston or Angelina Jolie and thought, "If only I could look like that..."? Movie stars are glamorous, poised, mysterious and exotic. They have personal trainers, couture clothes, special diets, and a staff of beauticians to make sure they look perfect.
But I'll let you in on a secret... there are a lot of guys out there who don't want to date models. They prefer substance and cuteness to beauty and shallowness. They want to be with a girl who's fun rather than a girl who can't go kayaking because she's worried that she is going to break her nails. If a guy invites you for a spin in his convertible, are you going to say no because it will mess up your hair? I hope not!
Don't think that you've got to have an army of personal trainers, wardrobe consultants, beauticians and plastic surgeons to make you into the girl that every guy wants. Think about someone like Drew Barrymore, who gets guys because of her girl-next-door looks and spunky attitude. Think of full-figured women like Kelly Osbourne or Queen Latifah who don't let their size keep them from projecting an incredible sexiness on screen. What these women have in common is that THEY WORK WITH THEIR ASSETS. They DON'T spend their time trying to "fix" the physical flaws they think they have.
Men like women. They like the parts of women that make them different from men: the breasts, the curves, the hips, the skin. Most men find ALL women interesting, simply because the female shape is biologically keyed to attract their senses. And here's the good part... you don't have to do ANYTHING except take advantage of the female body you've already got!
Nevertheless, guys are visual creatures. We have to accept that they're going to check us out. If we run out to the store in sweatpants and a baseball cap and run into the guy of our dreams, chances are that his gaze is going to slide right past us. If you look like a supermodel, you WILL get lots more male glances. That's life.
If you're worried about your looks, there are three things that you can do.
1. Be Healthy
The problem with being overweight is not your looks. It is the strain that the extra weight puts on your health. You should NEVER try to lose weight to look a certain way. Rather, you should try to adopt a healthy lifestyle so that you can feel more energetic, get out there and do more things, and avoid the cost of trips to the doctor.
Research shows that, in general, men are attracted to healthy women. From the dawn of time, men have looked for women who could bear healthy offspring. That meant that women had to be well-nourished, have clear skin, bright eyes, and healthy, shiny hair.
Today, men aren't as concerned about a woman's ability to bear children (as science has progressed to enable more couples than ever to have children), but they still respond to those signals of health. That is why make-up products are so important: they create the illusion of flawless skin and bright eyes, which tells men that you are healthy. Even shampoos claim to give you shiny, healthy hair.
But you won't need much help at all if you simply eat right, exercise, drink plenty of water, and get eight hours of sleep a night. The basics to being healthy are pretty simple. Put your health first... and watch men's attraction to you follow.
2. Display Your Assets
Forget nagging yourself about that mole on your cheek, the cellulite on your thighs or the shape of your butt. Ignore the negatives and accentuate the positives! If you have wonderful eyes, invest in some quality eye products or get a makeover to teach you the make-up techniques you need to know. If you have a curvy figure, choose clothes to set those curves off. There are piles of women's magazines with tips on choosing the right fashion style for your body type. If you work with your body type rather than against it, you'll find that men will find you enormously interesting... even more interesting than that bored-looking model on the other side of the room.
3. Pamper Yourself
The best way to look sexy is to feel sexy. Invest in a great haircut. Try a facial. Schedule regular manicures, or spend a weekend away at a health spa. The more you pamper yourself, the better you will look. The glow of health and happiness can't be faked, but it can be helped along by any one of the many beauty treatments out there.
If you don't have deep pockets, you may want to try simple activities like homemade deep conditioning treatments for your hair, or steaming your pores with hot water and a towel over your head, or one of the many self-treatments available at your local drugstore. The most important part of the process is not radically transforming your appearance. It's feeling pampered and good about yourself. Try it... and watch men respond.