In all the years I have been helping people with Internet dating the one thing that every one keeps asking is: why does it not work for me? What people do is they think because they are on the Internet and the company they are with (eg. Matchfinder) they seem to think it is going to be easy and that every one is going to find their perfect match for them. This is an illusion.
The idea of Internet dating is to put people together that normally would not have the opportunity to meet.
So when you join an Internet dating site, eg. Matchfinder, don’t just think the site is going to do it for you. Take the plunge, pay your $34.95 for a 1 month subscription; read our members' profiles, find something of interest and try to start a conversation with them.
Put it this way: look at every one as a friend - a good relationship starts off as a good friendship. If you would like to make new friends how would you do that? Would you sit at home and wait for them to come to you? Or would you go out there and find them if you were informed of where to go?
Well that is very similar to Internet dating.
We supply a way for people from all over Australia to meet each other and have some wonderful friends and potential partners, but you cannot sit back and wait for them to come to you.
You need to get out there and go for it. How to make that first step after joining? Our advice is that you read as many profiles as you wish. Send as many messages as you can to try and start a conversation. With Matchfinder all members can reply to a message that is sent to them and it appears in their message box within their profile.
Eg. If you meet some one for the first time how would you start a conversation with them. Would you just give them your e-mail address and phone no. and expect them to ring you? No.
The beauty about someone’s profile is that you already know something about him or her. So that’s a good start, so find something of interest and away you go. We also advise that if you can reply to a message, out of courtesy to the sender, please respond.